Posts Tagged ‘Spiritual Practice’

June 2010 Soul and Solace

Thursday, July 15th, 2010

Adam Speak

I recently watched the film, Adam, which portrays the life of a young man with Augsberger’s Syndrome who cannot lie. Because of Adam’s attention to detail slows productivity, his boss decides to fire him.

“I have to let you go,” the boss says euphemistically. “But I don’t want to go,” responds Adam.

Similarly, I’ve heard “May I help you?” when what was meant was, “I am suspicious of you,” and “I’ll let you go” when what was meant was “I am ready to go.” As my June spiritual practice, I’ll attend more closely to when I am saying one thing and meaning another; when I employ language to make things easier on myself at the expense of another. I will try to be more like Adam.

What are your language practices?

October 2009 Soul and Solace

Monday, October 12th, 2009

Face to the Wind

I’ve been noticing dogs in vehicles a lot lately: little ones perched on driver’s laps, hunky ones taking soldier stances in the backs of pickups, mid-sized one poking noses out of backseat windows. Tails wagging, ears up, noses sniffing, faces to the wind, these dogs don’t want to miss a thing. I wonder what it would look like to live with our faces to the wind. I listed a few ideas below. We’d love to hear yours!

  • Roll down the windows when driving or riding to feel and hear the music of the earth.
  • Take sensory walks: once to listen, another time to smell, one time to look, another time to feel, maybe even a time to taste—within reason, of course!
  • When riding in a closed vehicle, view the world through every available window. How does altered perspective “reframe” the view?

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August 2009 Soul and Solace

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

Like Blanche DuBois, I recently had occasion to rely on the kindness of strangers. During a weekend outing to Fredricksburg, TX, I caught my foot on a curb and smashed my face full-force against the pavement. I could tell, from the blood on my hands, the state of my glasses, and from the expressions on my family’s faces, that something was amiss. Then strangers appeared: a child bearing a worried expression, a woman thrusting a pack of tissues into my daughter’s hands, people offering bottles of water, a man who ran into a restaurant and returned with a bag of ice and a handful of napkins. Bicycle police insisted I let EMS check me out; EMS directed me to a nearby Wal-Mart, where I could purchase first-aid supplies. While my daughters tended my wounds in the Wal-Mart bathroom, woman after woman appeared, looked at me, registered shock, and asked the question of compassion: “What happened to you?” Then they shared their stories of frightening falls and of recoveries. Each story was different, but I noticed a running theme: connection. The actions of, the stories of these strangers recognized that we are connected by our humanness, by our vulnerability, by our need for community, and by our need for hope.

After that weekend, I recommitted myself to being a stranger on whose kindness others can rely. What does “stranger kindness” look like to you?

July 2009 Soul and Solace

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

Summertime: children are seen everywhere. Or are they? Society tends toward two extremes in its treatment of young people. One extreme views children as big-eyed cartoon characters who say precious and endearing things. (Many children’s faith education publications sport just such illustrations.) The other extreme views children as “not quite” people. (For instance, the term “minor” indicates someone who is “less than.”)

The first view relates to children more as pets than as people, viewing them simply as “cute,” while denying them the respect afforded to equals. The second view renders children invisible: because they are small of stature, or because they cannot vote or earn a wage, society simply does not see them.

This summer, we can make a spiritual practice of valuing children as persons. Below are some ideas; you may have others. We’d love to hear them!

  • Get on a child’s eye level when interacting with him/her;
  • Ask questions in a child’s language: gauge word choice and sentence structure to the child’s needs;
  • Help other adults “see” children (For instance, children awaiting service in retail establishments often get overlooked. We can point out their presence to the wait staff.);
  • Say “excuse me” to a child every time you would do the same for an adult;
  • In teaching situations, replace “cute” with “quality”;
  • Learn a child’s name; and
  • Ask a child to teach you how to do something at which she/he is accomplished.

Do you have other suggestions?

June 2009 Soul and Solace

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009

Swimming pools, water slides, river rafting—summer & water, what a delightful duo! Scientists wonder if coming generations will have the resources to enjoy such treats. They predict that we face a critical shortage of water—readers of Frank Herbert’s Dune series can imagine the ramifications.

How, then, can we honor water—enjoying its gifts and conserving it as a precious resource for future generations? Below are a few suggestions. Do you have others?

  • Experience a glass of water with your senses: feel the water’s coolness on your hand as it flows from the tap, listen as it hits the bottom of the container, hold the glass up to a light and study the colors within the water, taste the water—what memory does your taste evoke?
  • Indulge in a long bath instead of a long shower; every once in awhile, light candles, play quiet music, and settle in for a soak.
  • Wait to wash. Wait until you have a full load in the dishwasher or the clothes washer before running them.
  • Xeriscape. Reduce the need to water the lawn by replacing “water-needy” plants with more drought-resistant ones.
  • Watch a rainstorm. Turn out the lights, snuggle up with someone you love, and just be.
  • Read A Search for Delicious by Natalie Babbitt. A delicious read!
  • Make a splash! Whether it’s a pool party, a water balloon fight, or just rolling up your pants legs for a wade, let water work its magic on you. After all, what better way to honor water than with laughter?

Do you have other suggestions?

May 2009 Soul and Solace

Saturday, May 9th, 2009

What Works?

I recently completed a job for which I was wholly unsuited—­we’re talking round peg stuffed into a square hole! Many people these days are doing the same thing—“you gotta do what you gotta do!” So what solace can we offer our souls while making our way through a tough work situation? I found the practices below helpful and would love to hear others you might offer.

  • Laugh: Finding a way to look at my workspace with a twinkle in my eye provided balance;
  • Visualize: I imagined what good my work would do, both for the world (I was providing a needed service) and for those closest to me (I imagined my daughter wearing the Senior Ring my salary would provide);
  • Survival Treats: Planning simple treats to delight my soul helped. Possibilities? Check out a film from the library, walk somewhere beautiful, visit a gallery or museum, phone a friend, create something, enjoy comfort food.

Do you have other suggestions?

April 2009 Soul and Solace

Tuesday, April 7th, 2009

God Sightings

What does God look like, after all? Many world spiritualities reply, “Just look around.” This month consider a practice of “God Sighting.” Choose five persons with whom you share at least part of your vulnerable soul. What about them allows you that level of trust? Begin noticing those characteristics in others around you—maybe in a person; maybe in an animal; maybe in a rock, or a lake, or a sandwich—maybe in yourself.

What do you see? We’d like to know!

January 2009 Soul and Solace

Tuesday, January 6th, 2009

Okay, I admit it—I LOVE Christmas music. I’ve been known to play it in the middle of July, just because I required a fix. And I’ve been grieving because, several years ago, the bell tower on César Cheváz played holiday songs that I reveled in as I walked, but, after that year, I never heard them again.

This holiday season both my husband and I were searching for “pay the rent” jobs and looking toward a new year filled with large question marks. One day as we walked, the bell tower chimed the hour, and then—delight!—began to chime Christmas music. After that, we timed our walks so we would be near the tower when the music began. The throb of the music pulsed through our walking feet and the bell’s vibrations pulsed in our ears until it seemed our hearts pumped in rhythm to their insistent best. In a season of perplexity, the bells rang out beauty, clarity, and harmony.

What music nourishes you? This month, gift yourself with its listening. Find a time free of distractions, choose a comfortable position (on a squishy couch, a firm mattress, or yoga-style on the grass) and give yourself up to the music. Listen again and again, if you like. The time is well spent.

October Soul and Solace

Wednesday, October 15th, 2008

I read and hear a great deal about keeping up spiritual practice in our hectic lives. These past few months, however, another question has intrigued me: what spiritual practices help us wait? Waiting requires intense endurance, especially in a society addicted to busyness. Do any of the following “waiting places” resonate with your experience?

Having emailed countless job applications, you now sit at the computer, awaiting a response from some potential employer somewhere. Having stamped and mailed your “reach school” application, you visit the mailbox each day to discover whether or not they find you worthy. Your medical tests sit in a lab somewhere while you wonder whether or not you can bear what they may disclose. You are mending from an illness or injury; you wonder when life will get back to “normal.” You took a risk in a relationship and now wait, wondering how—or if—the other person will respond.

Waiting season have a timeless quality to them: we itch to DO SOMETHING when the something we are called to do is well . . . wait. Waiting is a marathon we do not run; waiting is an endurance marathon.

I hope some of the practices will supply stamina power for your waiting season.

  • Go deep. Waiting provides us space for reflection. Consider the following books as reflection aids: The Artists Way and The Vein of Gold by Julia Cameron, Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg, and Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain by Edward and Tarcher.
  • Play. If you have ever wanted to mess around with clay or write a limerick or take a walk to nowhere in particular, now is the time!
  • Serve. Waiting can leave us feeling powerless. Yet we always have the power to do the world good. Write someone a letter of encouragement . . . look the cashier in the eye and say “thanks” . . . bake a loaf of bread and give it away.
  • Find a metaphor. It helps me to imagine waiting as the transition phase of birth labor. Because I am in transition, I feel nothing but pain, yet I know that labor ends in birth. Imaging waiting as transition helps me hope—and hope helps me endure.

August Soul and Solace

Wednesday, August 20th, 2008

It’s there—right beside Austin’s Long Center in a park filled with gentle curves. I nearly passed it by, but then I stopped and studied the pattern of white and red bricks: could it be what I thought it was? Yes, the city of Austin had built a labyrinth into its newest park, near the Barton Springs Road side. This one’s not the only labyrinth in Austin, however. You can find them both outside and inside several area churches. In fact, labyrinths are increasingly popular across the country: in hospital courtyards, in city parks, at retreat centers, and in prisons.

A labyrinth is a walking maze, but it is impossible to get lost within its circle. The labyrinth path takes the walker on a circuitous route toward the center, where its traveler can then sit or stand. When ready, the walker retraces his or her steps out of the maze.

So what’s the big deal about labyrinths? Studies show that walking a labyrinth reduces stress. I find it to be more than that: for me, labyrinth walking is prayer. As my feet move along its path, I feel the solidity of God’s creation bearing me up, and the natural rhythm of my gait joins the music of the universe. The path is deceptive: when it appears that I am almost to the center, the path suddenly turns back on itself and heads me in the other direction. How often have I experienced that! The labyrinth’s hairpin bends slow me down and challenge me to find my center of balance. The labyrinth grounds me—literally. When I walk the labyrinth with another person, the path draws us so near that one of us must pause and allow the other to move forward. How often in daily living do we speed along, isolated in our horse-powered tins cans, passing other tins cans without any real consciousness of their occupants? On a labyrinth I make room for the other and the other does the same for me. At last, the labyrinth welcomes me into its center, into its very heart, and lets me simply be. On a hot summer morning I can sit and feel the stone’s refreshing chill or, on a winter’s day, I can stand at the center, watching my breath go up like a prayer before me. When I am ready, I am lead, gently but firmly, outward to its entrance. It feels like being birthed.

The labyrinth is grace-filled. It accepts my walking feet no matter what I am wearing. It blesses my steps whether I take its path slowly and contemplatively or whether I dance along it, laughing as I go. I can come to it alone or in the company of others. It is always there; if I haven’t the time or inclination one day, it patiently awaits my feet the next. How does that sound to you?

Sometime during the coming month, find a labyrinth near you and gift yourself by walking it. Don’t feel you have to come with any kind of “attitude” other than to stay on the path, to pause at the center, and return as you entered.